regarding the reading: it's more I'm trying to figure out a good name for something similar to my beleif system to help other people have a sense of that, and buddhism seems possible, but I don't know enough about it to feel comfortable claiming it yet. mike is also interested in daoism specifically.
we are planning on having a small table set up with photos/momentos of family and friends who have died, and for those unable to be physically present who are important to us. which someone mentioned later was similar to an ancestor shrine.
I am also wondering if you can think of anything that you have seen or participated in, in a wedding that helped reflect the couple's commitment to their community. I probably should call your parents and ask them too.
oh, and i have the isbn for rice and salt in a comment on the first post about it.
thank you for the recommendations
one version of the wedding vows is here: http://nipun.charityfocus.org/blog/ar/personal/000116.html
except we probably won't use the final bolded questions (ie dharma) and will keep it officially non-denominational.
we are planning on having a small table set up with photos/momentos of family and friends who have died, and for those unable to be physically present who are important to us. which someone mentioned later was similar to an ancestor shrine.
I am also wondering if you can think of anything that you have seen or participated in, in a wedding that helped reflect the couple's commitment to their community. I probably should call your parents and ask them too.
oh, and i have the isbn for rice and salt in a comment on the first post about it.